When I hit follow, I mean it.

Many WordPress users follow blogs simply to get a follow back. To boost their numbers. I understand this. Because it happens to me so infrequently, getting a follower is like a small hit of crack. A rush.

Topping a milestone, 100, 200, etc, is something more. But I don’t really know what because it’s only happened to me once. A few months ago, I bypassed one hundred followers. And I’m now one away from two hundred.

I won’t trade for follows. I don’t want my reader filled with unreadable content. For the most part, I don’t want to read about travel or makeup or restaurants in a city I’m not planning to visit. I don’t want to read about books I’ll never read. Or movies I’m not going to watch.

I want to read about people. I want to read about goals, dreams, fears, foibles and achievements. I want to read about you. I want to read about real people blossoming and withering. Growing and shriveling. Experiencing life… and death.

I want to read dissent, opinion and point of view. But I don’t want to read about hate. Hate is for Facebook.

Today I unfollowed my first blog. A post offended me. It left me feeling dirty, stained, and wondering why—why would I voluntarily read something that is counter to my beliefs. It didn’t leave me feeling educated. It wasn’t challenging, just mean.

I’m not afraid of ugly. Many of the poets I follow paint a picture of the world that is black and red. Not beautiful, but a slap in the face. Screaming wake up. In their posts there is no hate, just truth.

Hate is for Facebook.

7 thoughts on “Follow

  1. I’ll follow a blog that follows mine, but yes, I read the content and have had to unfollow a few that either took over my feed or were offensive. Also – nice use of the prompt word!


    • At times I feel like I don’t follow enough blogs and I can’t find anything to read. The next day *every* one posts and I get stressed out.This is the only blog that has offended so far.


  2. Again, well said. I follow a lot of blogs I don’t read bc one or two posts interested me — the personal ones, like you said. But then I realize the majority of other posts is impersonal stuff, still interesting to someone of course, but it’s much more enjoyable to get to know real people. Also, I’ve been in a blogging rut for a few months now but your use of the prompts is inspiring. Going to have to follow your lead!

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    • I think it would be hard to blog through all the changes you’re making. Part of me says “oh, so much material”, but then the realist says “wow, she’s got a lot going on”. My guess isn’t so much a rut, but looking for your new normal.

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  3. I follow bloggers in the same way. I rarely unfollow because I go through multiple posts of theirs before deciding I want them on my reader. The only unfollow I’ve had to use was a gentleman who changed his blog from introspective and interesting to asking for money MULTIPLE times per day. It was outrageous.


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